How to Flirt with a Guy You Like
84Flirting is fun.
Learning how to get a guy, you like, to notice you can seem like an uncomfortable challenge at times.
But guess what ladies, the guy you like may be unsure of how he can meet you. Sometimes, even men need a little help. Our society has become so infatuated with gadgets that require little human contact. Face to face interaction and conversation are running the risk of becoming extinct. Striking up a conversation and actually meeting someone has become risky business and a little scary. So, to make meeting that cute guy in line ahead of you at Starbucks; the grocery store; or wherever you may notice him a little easier. Here are some simple steps to follow and meet that special guy.
Just remember, it is meant to be a fun experience. So, be playful, enjoy yourself, and have a good time.
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Relax and smile. Do this by taking a deep breath and remembering something that makes you happy. It will literally change the "feel" of the energy around you. Plus, it helps you feel and look more confident. This confidence will help you feel more open to meeting new people. So, go with the flow, you never know who you may meet and develop a new business contact, friendship, or relationship.
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Make Eye Contact. This simple courtesy can make a huge difference in the quality of conversation you have with someone. It lets the person you are talking to know you are interested in what they are saying. This can be very flattering and makes you memorable.
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Once you have said the initial "Hello", ask him his name. Then, reach out and shake his hand as you introduce yourself. It is a friendly gesture that is not utilized enough. Shaking someone's hand can be a very nature way to help someone relax in your presence. Touching someone can be a very powerful "icebreaker". Shaking hands is a noninvasive way of bringing physical contact into your conversation without making him or you feel threatened.
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Learn How to Make Small Talk. This can be a big challenge for most people. They are not sure what to say after the initial name, rank, and "serial number" conversation starters. i.e. What do you do? How do you like... (the event) To make this easier, give step #5 your full attention.
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Listen Carefully to the Response to Your Question(s). This little tip can help to keep the conversation going. Plus, It makes the person doing the talking feel important. Be sure to keep the questions simple and on neutral subjects. (i.e. favorite hobbies, family, any place interesting they may have traveled. etc.)
- Use Their Name in the Conversation. A surprisingly simple, but often, neglected tip. Using someone's name shows them that they have made a good impression on you. And by utilizing this basic tip, you become even more likable and unforgettable as well.
- Remember to Share a Laugh. Laughter is one of the quickest ways to create a quick and special bond with somebody. If you are not naturally funny or, like me, totally unable to repeat a good joke. Share a real life story about some thing funny that happened to you. This causes a person to naturally feel closer to you. Most of us enjoy meeting someone who can find fun moments in their life to share with others. Keep it simple and light-hearted.
So, there it is. A few short and sweet tips to move you safely along the path of flirtation. Flirting really is a simple way to get someone's attention then, by exhibiting confidence and basic human courtesy, you can get to know someone you may have initially been nervous to meet.
When done correctly, flirting can get a conversation going. And allow you to, happily and successfully, part company having made a new friend or at least having made a potentially boring situation more enjoyable.
So, relax and have fun, you have just stepped into the wonderful world of successful flirting.
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Thank you Tom, I appreciate the feedback.
Good information anyone can follow, no matter how shy or inexperienced!
Novembers, Thank you for your thoughtful comment. My goal is to keep things fun and simple for anyone who reads this article. Have a wonderful weekend.
Yes, I wish more girls knew how to do this.
Hi John,
Hopefully more people will read the article and put the steps into use. Thanks for reading and leaving a comment.
im 11 and this is not working.... :'(
Hi Marianne,
Be patient, the things I mention in this article are simple things you can do to make new friends. If you keep practicing, you will meet some new people. You will also be ahead of other young ladies your age when it comes to meeting boys and having the boys treating you respectfully.
How do I make eye contact without looking "creepy"? Also I can't really shake his hand because I am only twelve, so any other things I can do to show him I like him?
Im 12 too and he is reallp popular and when I talk to his friends and he comes over hes really quiet but sometimes he jokes and he also went out with this girl who is rlly pretty but mean
Umm this was a very useful piece of info, though he kind of already knows i like him , though whenever I'm around him he is always tripping me up and laughing , in a playful manner i suppose , and during class I nearly always catch him staring at me , but I cant work out if it's because he likes me or because he is just so shocked at how bad I look .... Any help ?
Hi Emma,
Here is an example of simple eye contact. You look at someone for 2 -3 seconds (count in your head 1 mississippi... 2 mississippi...) then, slowly look away with a little smile. It will look a person know you are interested, and not be "creepy". Another good way to show interest in someone, is to learn about what they like to do. Sports, hobbies, etc. Once you know, you can ask questions. Does he like sports? If so, what kind? I remember when I was 12. Becoming friends with a boy is most important then, he can get to know and like you as well.
Hi Nikki, it sounds like you are making a new friend.
Hi Holly, Yes, first, be nice to yourself. It is important what you say about yourself and how you treat yourself. It will be how others treat you as well. So, treat yourself with kindness and respect. Others will too. I do not know your age, but I am sure you are beautiful. We each have our own look and style. If you are still in school, boys still do some immature things to get a girl's attention. He may like you.
Help! I like this guy but he is into my best friend... Ahh!!
Hey, I'm Lydia and I have my eyes on this GORGEOUS guy who works at the health food shop near where I live.
We are both so shy (I love your flirting tips by the way)! I can't tell if he likes me or not...he doesn't know my name - I know his from his name plate - but I really like him. I can't ask him stuff about himself out of the blue...especially if he doesn't like me! What are signs that a guy like a girl?
Also...I worry that I'm not beautiful enough for him
Thanks Cindi xxx
Hi Blubber fish, how are you? I understand your dilemma. We have all been there at least once in our lives. Unfortunately, if this guy really likes your best friend. My advise is to let him go and allow another great guy to show up in your life. Why, you may ask? Because, while you are focusing on this particular guy. Another guy, who really likes you and is a good match for you, may go unnoticed by you. And, you will miss the opportunity to be happy with someone who is just right for you. Think about it, plus, is this guy worth losing your best friend. Best friends are priceless... men are wonderful, but a conflict over one is never worth true friendship.
Hi Lydia,
How are you? First, I want to start by saying. I am sure you are beautiful. Every woman has her own personal style and beauty. so, be proud of who you are and start to say positive things about yourself. It will change how you feel about yourself and how you "show" up in life.
Here's a little secret... The one quality men find most attractive in a woman is self confidence. So, realize that you are a perfect you and no one can do you better than you : )
Now for your question, yes, I understand. Getting to know a new guy can feel a little scary at times. I would recommend going to the health food store and ask him about some products you may be interested in purchasing.
For example, you can tell him that you have been doing some research online (Be sure you have learned something about the product) about a particular product and since he works here and they have this product, you would like to get his feedback as well.
Questions you can ask him: What does he know about this product? Does this store have comparable products that he might recommend as well? If there are, why does he like these products compared to the one you are asking about? He will enjoy having a chance to share his knowledge with you and you will feel more comfortable talking to him.
Also, once the is done talking to you about the product/s. You smile; say his name then say, "By the way, my name is Lydia."... shake his hand... then say,"I really appreciate your help." Smile again and then, the conversation should naturally continue.
This is an easy to get to know someone without pressure and if he is interested in you he will remember you name the next time you come in to the store and if you bought the product you where asking about. He will mostly like ask you about it, to start up a new conversation.
Hopefully, this will be enough to get a good conversation going and move you both past your shyness.
Let me know, you can email me at: romancesexandlove@gmail.com
Im 12 and these tips for real work thank you
Tom Cornett Level 3 Commenter 9 months ago
Sounds like pretty good advice to me....welcome to HubPages! :)